I recently wrote a post called 7 People I Don’t Have Time For.
After posting it, I thought of an 8th person:
My first year of college, I became friends with a group of girls in my “Welcome to College Class”. I was so happy that I made friends that I overlooked some things that I shouldn’t have. One friend, in particular, the one I considered to be my “best friend” at the time, always had something negative to say. I’m the type of person that likes to joke around with my friends, but there is a fine line. This girl? She crossed the line daily, but I was so happy to have a “friend” it didn’t matter.
The second semester of my first year, I applied to be the night and weekend program coordinator for my school. I received an email with the job offer during one of my classes. As soon as my class was over, she was the first person I saw. I told her the news. There wasn’t a “congratulations” or “cool” or “take me out to dinner when you get paid”. I don’t exactly remember what she said, but it was something negative. Anytime I would get excited about something, she would tell me to “calm down” or that it “wasn’t that serious”.
Fall semester of my sophomore year, I cut ties with her after she lied on me and threw me under the bus. I tried to talk to her about the situation, but she kept believing what she wanted to believe so I let it go. I deleted and blocked her number and I didn’t speak to her from that point forward.
I’m the type of person who needs to talk through my ideas with people. I don’t do it so much for confirmation, I just need some people to help me navigate through my thoughts. I’ve noticed that most of my ideas never came to life because I TALKED way too much about them with the wrong people. Of course weighing the pros and cons of a situation is important. But those cons turned into doubt and I just left the ideas alone. I let the fears of others obstruct my vision.
I don’t blame others, for my lack of follow through though. I blame myself. It’s easy to keep people around that don’t have a growth mindset. It’s even easier to subscribe to the doubt of others. I’ve allowed people to taint my mental mug that is filled with possibility and wonder. I believe that anything is possible if I pray and put in the work. I’m working now to build a network of people that I know will help me take this fire I’ve started to the next level of LIT.
The Bottom Line? STAY WOKE TO WHO YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH.
Some people are just plain nightmares. They are only there to invoke fear. We need people to keep it real with us, but your support system should also be problem solvers. Simply listen to what others say when you tell them your dreams or good news. Do they breathe life into your vision? Or are they always bringing a dark cloud and no umbrella? Evaluate your “support system”. You don’t have to completely cut people off, just be intentional about WHO you share WHAT with.
The good thing about a nightmare? You can ALWAYS wake up!
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